"All relationships have one law: never make the one you love feel alone, especially when you're there."

- Dr John Gottman

Can we transform conflict at home and at work?

How can we get the people we care about to hear us?

What do we do when we don't understand the people we love?

What happens when arguing becomes a disease?

These are issues that can shatter not just relationships, but entire families. Feeling seen, understood, heard, and validated, is important for all humans. Without this basic keystone, relationships become neither a healthy or safe place for us. Often when the relating aspect of relationships begin to disintegrate, we shut down, or walk away.

But in the old days, people didn't just throw things away when they were broken. When something was broken, they fixed it. 

In Transforming Communications, we treat relationships as being no different than anything else in life: you need to learn skills in order to not fall on your face. 


When you think about it, no one ever teaches us how to talk to each other, how to listen to each other, and how to make each other feel loved.


But now is the chance. It is never too late.

Step by step we look at:

  • situations in relationships that create conflict,

  •  how to talk in a way that everyone feels heard and happy,

  • how to let go of 'compromise' forever ,

  • the scientific method to create lasting romantic relationships.

  • steps to resolve arguments peacefully

  • expressing oneself honestly and powerfully

  • how to be both kind and strong,

  • how to help others so that they feel better - not worse. 

  • ways of not just dealing with conflict, but increasing intimacy, affection love.

This is perfect for couples, but can also benefit friendships, families, parents, and also work/business relationships. Some of these techniques were used by psychologists for hostage negotiations! So, yeah, you can imagine it can be useful anywhere. (But seriously, please leave hostage negotiation to professionals, people). 

We love this course because here you get the skills to deal with any relationship, any conflict, at any point in the future. Instead of ending up in marriage counselling for years, for a single relationship or a single problem, we want to teach you the skills you need to look after every relationship in your life. 

Time to become a relationship Jedi.

What do you receive?

  • 27 hours of course time (over 9 weeks)

  • 1-to-1 support and group coaching

  • 2x textbooks 

  • 1x free life coaching session with David (worth $100)

  • 1x certificate

  • ongoing access to Facebook support group for graduates

  • access to short refresher courses

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Who is the teacher? 

David Gill MNZANLP is a registered Life Coach, NLP Master Practitioner, Eriksonian Hypnotherapist, Timeline Therapy™ Practitioner. teacher, actor, writer, singer, and little-white-dog owner. He is a qualified instructor in Transforming Communications™ and it is his mission to create a world where all people are accepted, and loved - no matter who they are. 

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“You give a poor man a fish and you feed him for a day. You teach him to fish and you give him an occupation that will feed him for a lifetime.”

Chinese proverb

Upcoming Dates

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Transforming Communications Sunday Series - 7th July 2019 - Aug 25th 2019

Transforming Communications Sunday Series - 1st Sept 2019 - 9 Nov 2019  

Transforming Communications Intensive - 2nd Jan  2020 - 10th Jan 2020 

Venue: 69 Bank St, Whangarei

What is the cost? 
For the cost of the programme you have two options: 
  • Option 1 - single payment of $780 (save $89.60)
  • Option 2- a deposit of $200 and 9x weekly payments of  $74.40
Early bird discount -10% if course paid in full two weeks prior to course beginning. 
Couples discount - 20% if they want to do the course together (so double the cost of the course and take off 20%)
Further 10% discount apply to senior citizens, tertiary students, and community services card holders.
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What do graduates say? 

"​Very valuable, and life changing."

- Raquel, Whangarei

"The instructor was mind-blowing with his skill in delivering [and] role modelling communication. Appreciative of David's gift for sharing his expertise in a caring manner. I found it helpful to attend the [course] to help deal with personal issues I have communicating with an ex partner and [with] conflict resolution in the work place. [I value the] sense of calmness and feel I have tools to deal with conflict situations."

-Sue, Whangarei

"Learnt valuable skills for communicating and found the reasons why often my good intentions go sideways. The practical exercises [in] build[ing] rapport, conflict resolution, and in making "I messages" allows greater listening in relationships and at work."

Rosie, Christchurch

"A lot to take in/absorb, fun, engaging, enjoyable, a great new experience with new skills to implement. Looking forward to some excellent and positive results that will impact my life favourably."

-Kay, Whangarei

"[The course showed me]...How to reflective listen to enable people to feel heard and understood. Also how to speak my truth confidently and value myself the same as others. Very valuable and has already been ground-breaking for me."

- Viv Green, Whangarei 

A great opportunity to get clearer about how one's communication lands and how it can be modified to get different or enhanced results.

- Shona, Whangarei

 "[A workshop] exploring how to communicate and build genuine, closer, respectful connections with others...unpacking the subtleties of building rapport & reflective listening.  David – kudos to you for your deep commitment to learning, connecting and sharing. I salute your sensitivity to others and natural capacity to both nuture and empower your learners. With gratitude and respect."

- Cameron,Whangarei


"At all times [David] was consistent in use of the TC skills, providing a genuine model and enthusiastic support of the skills... [I valued]...the depth of focus in each concept and the practical exercises. Especially Reflective listening: as a means of developing the persons's own problem-solving; and in Conflict Resolution combined with “I statements”.

- Nola Wicks, Whangarei

"David is an amazing teacher, and has helped me learn how to communicate better, and be the person I wanted to be."

- Joe, Whangarei

 “Love doesn’t just sit there, like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade all the time, made new.”
– Ursula K. Le Guin, author