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"Communication is the real work of leadership."

- Nitin Nohira, Dean, Harvard Business School


Colleagues don't understand you?

Feel resentful or frustrated with the kids?

Wish there were better ways to resolve conflict with your spouse?

This programme is about a more compassionate, connected, creative and productive way of life where you are increasingly able to:

  • Have more authenticity, fun, honesty and confidence your relationships

  • Feel more at ease, more like yourself, with 'difficult' people

  • Resolve conflicts more easily, more often

"To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way that we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others."

- Anthony Robbins

10 Week Online Programme - Live sessions!

How to influence and motivate other people in your life

The first step is knowing how to make other people feel understood. Being understood is important for all humans beings. For some personalities - maybe not you - but maybe your spouse, kids or colleagues, it's also about feeling seen and validated. When that happens, they're more engaged and productive.


Without this basic keystone, relationships seem tense and it's harder to relax. It can be more challenging to  be your true self around others. When communication falls apart, we might shut down,  walk away, or say something we regret. Or worse for you, hold it inside to fester and breed resentment.

But how do we successfully voice the concerns we have buried? And is it even possible to repair after sharp words have been exchanged?

In Transforming Communications™, we treat relationships as being no different than anything else in life: it's about learning some new skills which are backed by research.


When you think about it, most people just pick up communication skills unconsciously from parents and family. As children, the adults that spoke to us might have been stressed or dealing with trauma. We might have heard negative language or tense voices - and that's becomes our "default setting". 


Perhaps people did not speak to us, or listen to us in a way that suited our personality. They might have had good intentions - but how did their words land in our mind, body and heart? Did they talk to us and listen to us in a way that made us feel understood - and loved for who we are, not for who they wanted us to be?


It can feel hopeless sometimes. But, there are skills that can help to turn this around. Skills which have been modelled off people who are in happier long term relationships and who seem to repair from conflict in a way that feels better and more empowering.

It is never too late to start learning these skills.

Step by step we look at:

  • how to talk in a way that honours your own boundaries, whilst maintaining goodwill

  • how to let go of 'compromise' in favour of genuine win-win negotiation

  • researched ways to create lasting and fulfilling romantic relationships

  • steps to resolve arguments more peacefully

  • how to be both kind and strong,

  • how to help others so that they feel better - not worse. 

  • ways of not just dealing with conflict, but increasing understanding & positive connection

The presentation of this course applies to both  workplace/business relationships as well as being extremely useful for couples, families and parents. It can greatly benefit your friendships as well.

I love this course because you get the skills to voice your needs to others and follow your dreams - rather than being afraid of what others will think.


What do you receive?

  • 27 hours of course time (often over 9 weeks; sometimes shorter periods)

  • 1x textbooks and 1x manual

  • 1x free life coaching session with David

  • 1x certificate

  • Ongoing access to Facebook support group for graduates

Download the full syllabus

Who is the teacher? 

David's mission is to create a world where more people can successfully communicate their life dreams to others - and then attract a tribe who cheers them on.

David Gill MNZANLP is a qualified instructor in Transforming Communications™ as well as a Life Coach, NLP Master Practitioner, Eriksonian Hypnotherapist, and Timeline Therapy™ Practitioner.

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“I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

Maya Angelou

Upcoming Dates

Course 2

Transforming CommunicationsWeekend Series   - 9 weekly sessions

     - Saturdays 9.30am to 12.30pm, from 30th July to 24th September 2022.


Course 3

Transforming CommunicationsWeekend Series   - 9 weekly sessions

     - Saturdays 9.30am to 12.30pm, from 1st October to 10th December 2022.

 (Note: No class on NZ Labour Weekend Sunday 23rd October 2022)

Venue: Online Video Calls - via Zoom.

*For the course to proceed, a minimum number of enrolments needs to be reached. 

**The course comprises linear modules so full attendance and active participation is necessary.

What is the investment? 
The full price of the programme is: $880.00 NZD
There are two options to make payments easier:
Option 1 - Early Bird Price if paid 7 days prior to course starting:
  • Single payment of $780 NZD (save $100.00)
Option 2 -Time payment option
  • Deposit of $200 and 10x weekly payments of  $68.00
To Enquire...
Click the Red "Book Now" button below, then fill out the contact form at the bottom of that page and I will reply within a day with a time to chat.

Transforming Communication
...improve relationships at home and at work


What do graduates say? 

"​Very valuable, and life changing."

- Raquel, Whangarei

"The instructor was mind-blowing with his skill in delivering [and] role modelling communication. Appreciative of David's gift for sharing his expertise in a caring manner. I found it helpful to attend the [course] to help deal with personal issues I have communicating with an ex partner and [with] conflict resolution in the work place. [I value the] sense of calmness and feel I have tools to deal with conflict situations."

-Sue, Whangarei

"Learnt valuable skills for communicating and found the reasons why often my good intentions go sideways. The practical exercises [in] build[ing] rapport, conflict resolution, and in making "I messages" allows greater listening in relationships and at work."

Rosie, Christchurch

"A lot to take in/absorb, fun, engaging, enjoyable, a great new experience with new skills to implement. Looking forward to some excellent and positive results that will impact my life favourably."

-Kay, Whangarei

"[The course showed me]...How to reflective listen to enable people to feel heard and understood. Also how to speak my truth confidently and value myself the same as others. Very valuable and has already been ground-breaking for me."

- Viv Green, Whangarei 

A great opportunity to get clearer about how one's communication lands and how it can be modified to get different or enhanced results.

- Shona, Whangarei

"At all times [David] was consistent in use of the TC skills, providing a genuine model and enthusiastic support of the skills... [I valued]...the depth of focus in each concept and the practical exercises. Especially Reflective listening: as a means of developing the persons's own problem-solving; and in Conflict Resolution combined with “I statements”.

- Nola Wicks, Whangarei

 “Love doesn’t just sit there, like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade all the time, made new.”
– Ursula K. Le Guin, author

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