Build the relationship you want,
step by step.
"All relationships have one law: never make the one you love feel alone, especially when you're there."
- Dr John Gottman
One of the most rewarding, magical, stressful and teeth-grinding things you can do in life is attempt to have a romantic relationship with another human being.
Whether you have been together 2 months or 30 years, you and your partner are going to experience turmoil, arguments, upsets, and hurts. Often.
Sometimes we forgive and forget quickly, and become a stronger couple as a result.
Once in a while, arguments and conflicts are like being snagged in a blackberry bush: the more you struggle, the more you get caught up in in, and everything gets worse no matter what.
It doesn't mean you are a failure as a couple.
But it does mean you need new skills and insights to repair the situation.
In the old days, people didn't throw away cups and bowls when they broke. They fixed them. That is what we are suggesting with relationships. Take a painful experience and instead of calling it quits, use it as a chance to up-skill, grow , learn - and love.
What does my programme involve?
No psychotherapy - just useful, practical advice
No "one-size-fits-all" approach - we design a process that works for you as a unique couple, and find the answers that fit you
Calming down stress responses
Improving communication skills (without fighting)
Conflict resolution techniques
Learning problem ownership models
Practical exercises to reignite romance & passion
Understanding healthy boundaries & assertiveness
Learning about each other's dreams, values & personality types
Resolving past hurts & disappointments that are getting in the way of today
Traditional indigenous processes to experience forgiveness & letting go
I have experience working with couples who are:
Fighting all the time
Experiencing emotional distance
Together but lonely
Not having sex
Contemplating parting ways
Worried they are drifting
Unable to let go of past hurts & old relationships
How will you benefit:
Turn around arguments and conflict with new skills
Date again - find romance & fun again
Find your personal love strategy (and throw away books on 'Love Languages')
Understand each other deeply
Put the past to bed once and for all
Learn new skills for 'deep listening' and empathy
Understand how to tame your subconscious brain
And yes - enjoy sex again.
What do clients say?
"Dave is very, very engaging with outstanding knowledge and skills…he is so expressive and entertaining and completely exceeded my expectations with his ability to deliver his material…Thank you Dave for an awesome afternoon, I look forward to the next session!"
- Stephanie, Auckland.
“My coaching Session with David was great. It put a lot in perspective for me. Now I’ve got a new job and I am very happy. He did a great follow up. I highly recommend his professional service and approachable personality.”
"The NLP session was fantastic and made me feel empowered and in control of my situation. I would definitely recommend that anyone go that needs help with any situation in their life and David is great to work with as he has a very gentle approach".
"If you have any emotional blocks or would just like to polish your voice or presentation skills David is the man for you to see. He is an inspirational and passionate voice coach with a wealth of knowledge in performing and presentation skills. I have had the privilege of having individual coaching with him as well as attending one of his voice workshops. Using his skills as a voice coach and an NLP practitioner, I have learnt to speak clearly and present myself with confidence. In my individual sessions with David I was able to work on personal blocks that prevented me from feeling comfortable speaking in front of groups. I have greatly improved my confidence in public speaking and have recently presented a workshop of my own in which I felt totally relaxed and confident."
“I was feeling quite lost with my work and my life direction when I came to see David. He really helped me to see the ways I wasn't looking after myself, areas in my life I wasn't being authentic, and helped me to resolve a hell of a lot of inner conflict. Thanks to David and his coaching, I have left a good job that I wasn't enjoying, I am starting a new business of my own, and I feel the most comfortable in my own skin that I have ever felt before! Thanks David, it really has changed my life each time I have come to see you. Highly recommend your services to others.”
"Dave is amazing, and the shifts he can help you achieve are nothing less. I have recommended several members of my family see Dave, and each have come away with astounding results.
My 17 year old was failing physics and english, and in just a few sessions, Dave taught him a few tricks which saw him passing at the end of the year.
His workshops in communication are also invaluable.
If you want real, meaningful change - talk to Dave!"
- Kate, Whangarei
"Anxiety is a warning sign from the unconscious mind to focus on what you want."
– Tad James, PhD